Today is Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day in the month of Respect Life October.
It makes sense to have these two events in the same month. We have to respect all lives, even the ones that die too soon.
We at Catholic Fit Moms for Life support life at all stages from the unborn to natural death, no exception to this. A person is still a person no matter how small they are, for they all have a soul that lives forever.
Losing a child is one of the greatest sufferings that I have experienced. There is something about losing a child, a creation of God, whose very being is printed into your soul, DNA, and heart forever.
There are no words to describe this loss.
It has taken me many years to learn how to cope with the loss of my five children. To be in the right place of mind that I can see their anniversary dates and not lose myself in my emotions.
The turning point was when I finally allowed God’s merciful love to break through my weakness, which resulted in the start of my journey of holiness through my wellness.
There is something to consider here about how important is that journey of wellness.
It might seem that this movement of “wellness” is overkilled. You read about it everywhere, and everyone is talking about it. However, wellness in the secular world has missing parts that make it incomplete for proper health. For instance, they remove the soul apart and emphasize that self is the ultimate strength in mindset, not God.
When you leave out one or two aspects of whole-body wellness such as soul & mind, one becomes unbalanced, and health is unstainable in the long run.
I broke into too many pieces one too many times before I saw through the words of God that I need all three aspects of wellness to heal and have hope.
As I have progressed in my wellness journey, I realized that my most challenging part was the mindset. Once I had overcome the mindset roadblock, I experience such healing that I can’t Thank God enough.
It is easier to work on our bodies with nutrition and exercise than it is our Mind.
It is easier to open our soul to the grace of God by pushing through with prayer and receiving the sacraments. But there is something to say about the power of the Mind and its daily fight.
How you think about things determines which road you will travel to.
An abundance mindset allows you to feel grateful, embrace change, and yes, even great sufferings, think BIG, stay positive in challenging circumstances, and believe that there is “plenty to go around.”
A scarcity mindset can create an adverse reaction to things, lead you to blame circumstances and other people when things get hard, make limitations in the Mind, and carries the belief that there are limited opportunities, resources, relationships, love, and wealth in the world.
When you have an abundant mindset, you understand that change is part of life, and you can appreciate the fact that change leads to more positive outcomes.
If you can understand this and be grateful, you will do more things that move you and others around you forward.
On the flip side, if a scarcity mindset and negative thinking plague you, you will spend your time continually complaining about change instead of using change to create the life that you want.
I’m not saying it is easy, but sometimes good things grow out of hard times.
Once I had this transformation, I saw that I didn’t just lose those five children; I gain five saints.
This abundance mindset is not an easy path to travel on, but knowing what I know now has given me the tools to see each anniversary date as a day to grow in this holiness journey through wellness.
I see now that God is calling me to share these tools with others who might be suffering as I have. It might not be the suffering of child loss but the loss of that spark of joy and zeal in our own Fiat.
I invite you to chat with me and see how we can serve you.
Here are some gift ideas from small Catholic women businesses to either bring you or someone you know comfort and healing.
Words are powerful. Words can bring healing.
About seven years ago, I shared a blog post about my unborn loss stories and how a book brought me lots of healing.
I want to offer this book to you if you feel that you need those words of healing to help you on your journey.
Please, if you need someone to talk to, you may reach me at email@example.com.
With the Love of Christ,
P.S. — Watch a short clip on my personal loss story.